Girl, yes! Haha have you read my post "Why Pioneers?" I had such a similar experience. I didn't necessarily tell God "no" but I definitely had to mourn what I thought was my dream. And His has been SO. MUCH. BETTER. Am I wildly popular ? No. But if *feeds my soul*. And hopefully can help a handful of people. I also have had to give up my ideas on what I thought my family would look like. I wanted 2 kids... But the Lord has said 4... (I'm pretty sure... But if the Lord directs more... I will (reluctantly... I mean willingly follow 🤣)! In the past, I would be a little petty and NOT pray about it because I didn't want to know the answer. Lol. I'm proud of you for following His will for your life. It's such a beautiful use of your agency!
Haha I am with you there on the - reluctantly and willingly - 🤣 Thank you for sharing those things with me!! It amazes me how personal God is with each of us 😭
And yes, I loved your "Why Pioneers?" post!! Which reminds me to make something similar!! 😊
The wrestle with Him is real and sometimes may indeed lead to broken things. I love Elder Holland’s quote “ You can have what you want, or you can have something better.” Brisk waters to be sure. Often it turns out that He does want to give us what we want…but when it’s best, not when we think best.
Scott :') You're amazing. The wrestle with God felt more brisk after the mission and just adulting in general... Thank you for sharing those things brother, I needed it. 😭
Thanks for your vulnerability! I like the metaphor of the caterpillar. We were in Hawaii a couple of weeks ago and there were these big snails on the temple grounds in the middle of the sidewalks and I wanted to move them to the grass out of the way and save them. I told my SIL about it when we got back and she (recently graduated from BYU Hawaii) said to squish them as they’re invasive to the area. There’s a metaphor in that one too I’m trying to work out lol.
College isn’t that great, trust me. I have 2 writing degrees and no husband. I’m poor. God spared you, girl. Please believe me. And there are lots of people with lots of degrees and no money. There’s a woman in one of my Bible studies whose husband has a biology degree. He’s not using it. I asked what he does and she seemed unwilling even to go into it but she said he is not using his degree and she sarcastically said “College is SO useful…” It’s not, girl. College is a scam for so many of us. But also, IF you get a degree as a woman, it’s better to get it after you’re married and honestly, after you have kids and have raised them. Have a degree before marriage makes a lot of men not want you and it kicks motherhood down into later years when your fertility is sometimes not as optimal. My grandma is a millionaire and she went into real estate when her kids were in high school. She was a wife and mother first. Many of us who went the career route first find that we are deeply concerned about living life without a husband and children….and we’re not making much money, the economy is HORRIBLE, and without a second income, we can hardly survive. Plus we hardly have time to take care of our houses. Oh wait, we don’t have houses because we can’t afford them. My apartment (a teeny tiny studio) is gross because I don’t have the time to deep clean because there is no division of labor. I’m not trying to emotionally dump on you, and I’m not trying to invalidate your sadness. I hope you get the degree(s) you want one day. And I’m not trying to chastise you. I’m just trying to share with you that your life is this 30-year-old woman’s dream and God has abundantly blessed you. I also want to say thank you because, oddly, I suppose your post is for me too. The title made me think I would be reading another career woman and Christian beg God for a husband and it was actually the opposite and it made me realize that in every life circumstance, there are things you deeply want that you have to surrender to God. So thank you for sharing that. I just wanted to cheer you up, but also thank you for your wisdom. It’s a hard pill to swallow but I know in my soul you are right.
Hi friend!! Isn't it SO crazy how God knows us perfectly?! 😭 Yes!! With our economy right now, it seems like working for "dream" lives feel so impossible... my husband and I are still trying to cherish our cozy hobbit-hole of a basement, haha we love it. 🥹
I am SO happy that you were able to connect with my story and share your heart in the comments!! I hope to see you more often here because we both know...that God is very, very good. 😉🙏🏼
I relate to this so much! I left college to marry and go with my husband to the mission field. I’ve learned so much but resisted His plan for some time because the grief of losing that thing was very real.
Amber, wow!! I'm so happy to know that I'm not alone! I keep thinking that it's such a strange thing to go through, lol - so thank you for speaking out and sharing that with me!! I am definitely interested in knowing more about your story too! :')
Girl, yes! Haha have you read my post "Why Pioneers?" I had such a similar experience. I didn't necessarily tell God "no" but I definitely had to mourn what I thought was my dream. And His has been SO. MUCH. BETTER. Am I wildly popular ? No. But if *feeds my soul*. And hopefully can help a handful of people. I also have had to give up my ideas on what I thought my family would look like. I wanted 2 kids... But the Lord has said 4... (I'm pretty sure... But if the Lord directs more... I will (reluctantly... I mean willingly follow 🤣)! In the past, I would be a little petty and NOT pray about it because I didn't want to know the answer. Lol. I'm proud of you for following His will for your life. It's such a beautiful use of your agency!
Haha I am with you there on the - reluctantly and willingly - 🤣 Thank you for sharing those things with me!! It amazes me how personal God is with each of us 😭
And yes, I loved your "Why Pioneers?" post!! Which reminds me to make something similar!! 😊
The wrestle with Him is real and sometimes may indeed lead to broken things. I love Elder Holland’s quote “ You can have what you want, or you can have something better.” Brisk waters to be sure. Often it turns out that He does want to give us what we want…but when it’s best, not when we think best.
Scott :') You're amazing. The wrestle with God felt more brisk after the mission and just adulting in general... Thank you for sharing those things brother, I needed it. 😭
Thanks for your vulnerability! I like the metaphor of the caterpillar. We were in Hawaii a couple of weeks ago and there were these big snails on the temple grounds in the middle of the sidewalks and I wanted to move them to the grass out of the way and save them. I told my SIL about it when we got back and she (recently graduated from BYU Hawaii) said to squish them as they’re invasive to the area. There’s a metaphor in that one too I’m trying to work out lol.
Hey Melissa!! Metaphors are everywhere! Snails are my weakness too...haha. 'Invasive cuteness'?!! :')
College isn’t that great, trust me. I have 2 writing degrees and no husband. I’m poor. God spared you, girl. Please believe me. And there are lots of people with lots of degrees and no money. There’s a woman in one of my Bible studies whose husband has a biology degree. He’s not using it. I asked what he does and she seemed unwilling even to go into it but she said he is not using his degree and she sarcastically said “College is SO useful…” It’s not, girl. College is a scam for so many of us. But also, IF you get a degree as a woman, it’s better to get it after you’re married and honestly, after you have kids and have raised them. Have a degree before marriage makes a lot of men not want you and it kicks motherhood down into later years when your fertility is sometimes not as optimal. My grandma is a millionaire and she went into real estate when her kids were in high school. She was a wife and mother first. Many of us who went the career route first find that we are deeply concerned about living life without a husband and children….and we’re not making much money, the economy is HORRIBLE, and without a second income, we can hardly survive. Plus we hardly have time to take care of our houses. Oh wait, we don’t have houses because we can’t afford them. My apartment (a teeny tiny studio) is gross because I don’t have the time to deep clean because there is no division of labor. I’m not trying to emotionally dump on you, and I’m not trying to invalidate your sadness. I hope you get the degree(s) you want one day. And I’m not trying to chastise you. I’m just trying to share with you that your life is this 30-year-old woman’s dream and God has abundantly blessed you. I also want to say thank you because, oddly, I suppose your post is for me too. The title made me think I would be reading another career woman and Christian beg God for a husband and it was actually the opposite and it made me realize that in every life circumstance, there are things you deeply want that you have to surrender to God. So thank you for sharing that. I just wanted to cheer you up, but also thank you for your wisdom. It’s a hard pill to swallow but I know in my soul you are right.
Hi friend!! Isn't it SO crazy how God knows us perfectly?! 😭 Yes!! With our economy right now, it seems like working for "dream" lives feel so impossible... my husband and I are still trying to cherish our cozy hobbit-hole of a basement, haha we love it. 🥹
I am SO happy that you were able to connect with my story and share your heart in the comments!! I hope to see you more often here because we both know...that God is very, very good. 😉🙏🏼
I relate to this so much! I left college to marry and go with my husband to the mission field. I’ve learned so much but resisted His plan for some time because the grief of losing that thing was very real.
Amber, wow!! I'm so happy to know that I'm not alone! I keep thinking that it's such a strange thing to go through, lol - so thank you for speaking out and sharing that with me!! I am definitely interested in knowing more about your story too! :')
We’ve been on the field for 10 years. God is very wise! ♥️
I love that!! 🥹 and I agree. 💯